Letters to My Children – June 2018

Dear Ariya,

Summer summer summer time!  It’s summer time! It’s been a wet start to summer, raining a lot.  But we managed to spend a lot of time relaxing.  Mostly going to the pool whenever we can.  I was worried at first, trying to manage you and Asha.  You’re so close to really *getting* how to swim, and Asha does whatever you do.  You don’t wear floaties, she won’t wear floaties.  You jump off the edge, she jumps off the edge.  But we got the hang of it.

You also tried tennis camp for the first time.  AND YOU LOVED IT.  I used to play tennis when I was younger, so I’m pretty excited that you’re into it.  You thought coach Jaime was the best, and you made so many friends there too.  Afterwards, we’d go to the pool and enjoy some time in the water.

Your uncle, Rushabh (my cousin) was getting married at the end of the month.  It was your first Indian wedding, and first wedding that you could remember.  I would get out our wedding album, and we would watch our wedding video.  We even went shopping for Indian clothes for all of us.  You had a blast playing dress up.  But even you couldn’t handle the craziness that come with an Indian wedding.  You got some mehndhi (henna) done.  We did pooja at Rushabh uncle’s house with a priest and you got to spend more time with your cousins and uncles.  The garba was that night, and you were TIRED.  You didn’t want to dance much.  But you played a lot with the fun uncles.  The wedding was early and you were CRANKY.  But after a nap, you were ready for the reception and you were a dancing queen.  It was so much fun on the dance floor with you!  Now you know what an Indian wedding is like, and I’m sure there will be more Indian weddings in the future.

After our weekend in New Jersey for the wedding, we came back to you doing another summer camp.  It was a theater camp, singing, acting, dancing.  And you loved it!  I wonder if you’d be interested in doing it as an activity throughout the year.  But I wonder if maybe you’ll be overloaded with too many activities, especially with you starting Kindergarten.  Plus, I don’t want us to get burnt out.

I know the summer will fly by, I just want to soak up every bit of it with you.

Dear Asha,

Summer vacation is like any day for you.  Except, you’re excited to have Ariya home every day.  It’s been nice sleeping in, not rushing to go to school, being able to stay in our pajamas.  You are obsessed with the pool.  It’s all about the pool.  You won’t wear your floaties or your swim vest, which makes me crazy.  Because you think you can swim, but you can’t.  You’re so independent, or at least, you think you are.  You just want to keep up with Ariya and do everything that she does.

Every time we dropped Ariya off at tennis camp, you cried and screamed to go with her.  And then you wanted to go to the pool, even though it wasn’t open.  You just HAD to go with me to the gym, or to go grocery shopping or to run other errands.  No fun at all.  That’s ok, your time will come.

I think Rushabh uncle’s wedding had you in a daze.  You were up, you didn’t sleep much, and you watched a lot of Netflix on my phone.  I think my phone was dead pretty much the whole weekend because you and Ariya were glued to it.  You weren’t in the mood to play with anyone at all.  And you hated wearing the Indian clothes.  Oh my goodness, how you hated it.  And Daddy hated you in it.  You kept tripping over your skirts., you tried to take your clothes off a couple of times.  I knew I should have just put you in one of your favorite party dresses, but I couldn’t help it, you were just so cute in your Indian dresses!

I’m loving the time that we get to spend together.  Before you know it, the summer will be over, Ariya will be in Kindergarten and Asha will be in pre-school.  And I’ll miss you two. I’m trying to soak up all this time, all these moments with you two.  The fighting.  The playing, the laughter.  The tears.  All of it.

     

 

Letters to My Children – July and August 2017

Dear Ariya,

I feel like this summer went by so quickly! We filled the days with swimming, playing and more swimming.  Like, a lot of swimming….We took advantage of this pool membership and tried to go as often as we could, and there usually was a babysitter there to help me out.  You love your babysitter Savannah.  And she was a lifeguard too, so she was able to help you swim when you weren’t having your lessons.

In July, we took a trip to Cape Charles, VA.  We stopped off at Nani and Nanu’s house to visit for a little bit, which was nice.  It’s always good to play with your mom’s old toys and hang out.  But we drove a few more hours down to the beach and got to check out the house that we’d be staying at.  Grandma and your cousins and aunties and uncles were coming too! Even Uncle Eric was there!  How exciting!!  The beach was fun, the water was shallow and warm, and I did not have to worry about any waves crashing down on you and your sister.  The only thing that creeped you out were the snails.  There were MILLIONS of them, just buried in the sand.  And the ocean seemed so far away, we had to walk OVER these snails just to get to the water.  Yeah, it was creepy.  But we had a great time.  We went to the aquarium one day when the weather was kind of gloomy.  And we went to the library another day, they had the most fun little corner full of toys and books for kids like you.  You had a great time with the cousins, even though there was a lot of fighting and yelling to share over all of the toys.  But we definitely made some memories and I was there to take photos of pretty much everything.

As soon as we got back home, you had music camp with your friend Asher at SCAA.  We love learning with Ms Karen, and you had so much fun!  This year’s theme was traveling the world, learning about other cultures and singing lots of songs.

And the NEXT week, we did camp at Sonshine, your preschool.  The theme for the week was STEM.  It was pretty cool, the experiments you did.  One thing that was funny was that every day I dropped you off, Asha cried and cried for you.  She missed you so much.  I don’t know how she’ll handle you going back to school!

You also got a big girl bike to ride.  It still has the training wheels on but you’re having fun.  You’re very cautious, and try to ride slow.  It stinks that we’re on a hill, we do have to be careful when you ride around our house.  We may need to take your bike to the park one of these days, so you can practice some more.

August was a great month too.  We got to visit my family in New York.  And THEY had a pool too!  You met a TON of your older cousins on my side of the family.  I bet you didn’t realize how many uncles you had.  And you got to see Mala ben again.  I think you were just in awe of having an older sister cousin. And we were there just in time for Rakshabandhan.  I was able to tie rakhis  to all of my brother cousins (missing Niraj bhai and Akash) that were there, and you were able to tie rakhis to your brother cousins too!  Hopefully we’ll be able to make this a yearly tradition and see everyone next year! Well, we know we’ll definitely see them next year, because we have an Indian wedding to go to!  Rushabh uncle is getting married to Nithi auntie and you get to wear your beautiful indian dresses!  I know you’re excited about that!

I think you’re finally getting the handle of this swimming thing. You even jumped off the diving board and swam to the side in the deep end on your last swim lesson at the pool!  It was so amazing, and you acted like it was no big deal.  You are such a rockstar!  You keep asking about when school will start, when you’ll be in the 4s class, and when you can start ballet. Soon, sweetie.  Right now, let’s enjoy this time together and soak up the last of the summer.

Right now you love giving hugs and you’re such a big helper and such a sweet big sister.  Asha is so lucky to have you, even if it seems like a pain, always fighting over a toy or stuffed animal.  Thank you for being so patient with her.  I know she’s going through phase where you can’t reason with her, she wants what she wants.  But you’re doing a great job of working through your emotions and hers.  You’re getting so big.  I can’t believe that I have a 4 year old.  Where did the time go?

Dear Asha,

You have become SUCH a water baby!  You love splashing in the water and kicking your legs.  We play humpty dumpty you jump off the side of the pool to get wet.  I will definitely have to enroll you in some Mommy and me swim classes when Ariya is back in school.  I know you’ll love that.

You had such a great time at the beach with your cousins.  The sand, the sun.  Oh man, did you love putting the sand in your mouth :-/  I think you even tried to PUT A SNAIL IN YOUR MOUTH.  Yeah, I was not too happy about that.  You were very independent in the shallow water.  You’d just do your own thing, you hated me hovering.

While Ariya was in camp, you were a mess.  I thought we could have some fun times, just you and me, but you were not having it.  So we went to the gym a lot.  And played at home.  I wonder how this year with Ariya in school will be for you? I do have some fun things planned, like music class with Ms Karen at SCAA, and the mommy and me swim class at Kids First. Should be good times.

Your personality is so big Asha.  We joke that you’re such a terror.  I don’t know if it’s a 2nd child syndrome, or what.  But you definitely let your wishes known.  You’re finally saying Mommy (but you say it the way Ariya screams it when she’s downstairs and I’m upstairs, like MOMMMMMMYYYYYYYYYYY.  When you say it, I have a mini heart attack because I think something’s wrong. Nope, it’s just you repeating what you hear), and you wave and say Bye bye, and when daddy comes home from work  in the morning, you say Hiiiiiiiiii.  It’s the cutest thing.  I gotta get you on video starting to talk.  you’re definitely making a LOT of sounds and it’s the cutest thing ever.  But when you’re not happy, you let it be known.  Scratching, pinching, hair pulling.  Poor Ariya gets most of it.  We love you and wouldn’t have it any other way. But, maybe if you could just grow out of this phase soon, that would be awesome. K?

*all photos shot on film